ME :)
- Goda Ramkumar
- Bangalore, Karnataka, India
Thursday, May 31, 2012
Sarangi
Wednesday, November 09, 2011
The Beautiful 90s
I must say 90s had an extraordinary charm, warmth, enthusiasm and excitement which is missing now and I am sure would have been missing earlier too. I can make this comment based on the picture of life then I have got from my parents and other elder people I have spoken to. Partly we can say liberalization brought some comforts and improved the pace of progress from the 80s to make us happy. Thanks to PVN and MMS for that! We had best of both the worlds during my childhood where we had not moved too far away from the humanness that exists when we are not crowded with machines. At the same time we had the comforts of modern India. Now when I sit to think how our lives have changed in the past 15 years, it is exponential. When I think of it some make me smile, some bring a tear and some make me say “WTH”.
If we consider a 24 hour window and keep a count of number of people we meet and talk to and the number of machines we see, what do you think would rank higher? The computers, the cars and bikes, the TV, the phone, the tablets and what not. We see people more on TV, Websites and pictures than in real.
There was a time when we used to have enough time to talk with family, friends, teachers, relatives. Thanks to the power cuts which made us sit idle and talk , play antakshari or even come out to the streets and socialize with neighbors. Now the UPS has taken away that too! For instance I don’t even know who stays behind the shut doors in my apartment complex. The 24 hours hasn’t changed over the years. It is we who have! Our priorities have!
There was a time when we knew what was for lunch at neighbor’s place. Now we are happy if we could cook lunch at our own home. Fresh vegetable vendors on streets are replaced by frozen ones in the fridge. Fresh hot tasty lunch is replaced by reheated dinner. Thanks to the purchasing power to own a fridge and a microwave as a necessity that was luxury at some point.
The thought of going to a movie or an amusement park would bring so much excitement in my school days. Now going to malls and movies is a weekend routine and anything in abundance loses its value. Rather I don’t remember when was the last time I was excited about something. Nothing is rare for us to wait eagerly for. Even cricket matches occur every week now.
There was a time when festivals meant good food, new clothes and lot of people. Now they are just “Holidays” to relax from the 24X7 running around. Sometimes they are even shifted to make them “Long weekends”.
There was a time when we received letters from relatives and cards from friends and phone calls on birthdays. But now, letters have turned into emails stores on some web servers. Cards have turned into facebook wall wishes and phone calls into template smses. No longer do you have to remember a friend’s birthday to wish. Even if you do, you would not be noticed among 1000s of people who might have automated it.
There was a time when we took snaps, made an album and shared them with family and friends in person pointing who is who, describing the location and telling stories behind the snaps. Now we can click them on and on till we exhaust the memory card and dump them on a hard drive. We do upload on facebook or picasa and let people make sense of it.
Small moments in life like having an ice cream, sharing a joke or an anecdote, playing with friends, chatting over tea and snacks, an evening walk that needs planning now happened so effortlessly those days that I did not know the value then. Now when I think of it spending hours in the traffic, I do feel something is missing in life. We make advertisements out of the missing moments to make business. We have definitely made progress. Just that our soul is left behind.
PS: Somethings never change. We still spend a lot on weddings :D
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Fairness for the Fairer Sex
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Joys of Life
- Summer vacation in my 3rd class when Anand, Arvind and myself climbed trees to pluck fruits and eat them.
- 4 people playing choukabara on the floor and the excitement to see what my next throw of die shows up.
- Staying out of the house 10 AM to 10 PM playing with the children of the colony.
- Having dinner just to have that mango supposed to be had after dinner.
- Studying for the last exam every year imagining the days to come after 12 PM the next day.
- Small fights with Megha everyday.
- Going to movies with mom every Saturday.
- Jumping the wall separating the primary and secondary school with Aparna.
- Sharing the PJs as the greatest comedy in life with schoolmates.
- Combine-study with Savita with intervals of kobri mithai and puliogare.
- Waiting for the games period to play In-out dodgeball with classmates.
- Anxiety of April 1st every year waiting for the exam results.
- Sharing secrets with Arpitha with promises of truth.
- Power cut times in the night where the whole street is out with kids on road and parents at the door. I loved dancing in the night on the street :P
- Endless games of carrom and lagori played with Ashwini,Ashish,Seema and Alok.
- Cool weather of June and the hangover of the summer vacation.
- Sharing lunch with classmates at school narrating the stories of endless number of movies I watched.
- Sharada madam tuition classes with loads of fun with Sunil and Sanju.
- Hoarding 10000 coins in game of Monopoly.
- Stealthily eating sweets and chocolates in classes. Sorry to the teachers. :)
- The walk to the maths tuition with Arpitha and Shwetha.
- Planetarium visits and discovery channel discussions with Melonie.
- Night stay watching movies with Shilpa.
- Letter writing to friends far off - Nidhi and Ashish.
- Eating churmuri at street corner.
- Waiting for summer to have JOY ice cream.
- Talking diaries of the daily chores to Ashwini.
- Van gang to BASE and abundant fun. especially jokes cracked by Venkat intentionally and Meghana unintentionally.
- Bunking classes with Deepika and Kavita at college to have chat and chikki at Hanuman stores.
- Star-gazing with Archana.
- Watching SRK movies at home with a group of 10.
- Bulbing at the Titanic movie munching stuff through out.
- Mugging the freedom struggle with Gowri.
- All the groups of three that I always had.
- Mugging for quizzes at IIT library one day before.
- Preparing for dance shows and failing on stage.
- Forest-trek throughout the campus.
- Early morning visits to the beach and the murugan idly.
- Night-out mugging for the quiz and night-out chatting after the quiz.
- Open air theatre movies.
- First year of job - the fights, the chats and the movies.
- Stay with Nitika at AECS.
- The three musketeers.
- Age of SMSing the fiancee at the drop of a hat.
- Endless shopping, eating and movies in the engagement period.
- The hurry of arrangements of marriage.
- Thrill of the honeymoon.
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Thank You Series - Episode 2
A good measure of maturity is to remind yourself the prejudices and notions of childhood. I had my own set of those.
· Fair people always had a good first impression. I don’t exactly think it logically makes sense now but back then when I was a school kid, I did like to hang around fair people. I admit.
· I also had this notion that “North Indians” are fairer than “South Indians”. And what did North mean to me? Anything North of Karnataka where people can speak Hindi.
· Tenants need to respect the landlords more than vice versa. May be this got imbibed because my parents always made sure they showed some extra respect for the landlords.
Ranju
When I think back now, I don’t hold any of these notions now. But it is nice to remember the lady who shattered all the notions right when I was in the seventh class. That was when I got the opportunity to be the landlord’s daughter for the first time. I was all excited about it. I did rehearse the first few lines I would speak when they would come home the first time. To add to my excitement, my father had told me that they were Hindi speaking north Indians. Now that increased my expectations of “fair” complexion and also the pride of being a KV student who could converse well in Hindi. I remember the day August 1st, 1996 when the family first landed at out place.
A journey started off from that day – a journey that left such a lasting impression on me that I would never forget that family, especially the lady of the house- Ranju Aunty. First is always special as they say. The first time I met her – my expectations of fair complexion was shattered. I came back home and told my mom. –“She is not North Indian. She is not fair.” Little did I know while cribbing that she would be one woman who would come close to my mom in terms of how much I would love her? As days passed she did win all our hearts. Not only my family but the whole colony used to love her.
What set her apart was her cheerfulness while talking to people of any age-right from a kid to a 70 year old man. The genuine concern that showed up while she enquired – “how are you?” We do ask thousands of people on a daily basis the formal question – “How are you doing?” But how many of those do we really mean? How many times would we call them home and serve dinner if they said they were hungry? But she would. She really meant that trivial question. She was ready to help people any time in any situation which was one of the outstanding qualities that attracted people to her.
I don’t know how many times I have stayed back at her house not missing my parents. To reiterate how much of a big deal that is, there has never been a place other than her house where I have not missed my parents. I still remember the way she used to feed her little son and me the same way saying “Kha goda Kha. Khaye bina mein tumhe jane nahi de rahi”. Probably that was when I put up those few kilos :P She was a great company for anything – Chatting over Chai, watching a movie, cooking. Literally anything. Those 2 years of my life were the most fun-filled ones. There are no words to explain how much of a help she had been to my mom. More than a sister, More than a mother.
Finally when the day for her to leave to go back to “North India” arrived, I could not speak. But my tears did. It has been 12 years since that day now and I still miss you aunty. You were a magic that never fades.