One year of married life

One year is a long enough period to be important. To list out all the important years of my life

• The first year of my life which I don't remember but that does not take away its importance.
• The year I experienced school for the first time.
• Year spent preparing for the important exams of 10th ,12th and entrances.
• First year of job.
• First year of marriage.

Of all these, I bet the first year of marriage has been the one that has had a sea-change in my way of life, my outlook, my behavior, my attitude and to put it in two words- My life. So here goes lessons learnt in Marriage 101. That is how courses were named in my Engineering.

1. You will see new faces of the person you think you know. Take it as a learning rather than -"Oh I did not expect this". Marriage is full of surprises. Expect the Unexpected.
2. You are watched. Your independence and personal space shrinks. Take it as a blessing that you have someone to share every bit of your space rather than -"Oh God, I am suffocated." The more you share the space, the more you get as it easier to make someone realize your needs when you share and know each other well than laying down conditions and cribbing.
3. Formalities are bound to be there. You need to smile without reason, you need to enquire about well being even if you are not bothered, you need to act as expected. Take this as -" Free lessons to corporate world" than "Oh why do I need to do all this".
4. If you thought you were busy, you will only be busier. Clock ticks off with 50% work done. Take this as "Lessons in Time Management" than "Oh God I have time for nothing". Gradually you will get used to the busy schedule and steal your moments out of it.
5. Friends are seen more in Phonebook and Facebook than face to face. Take this as a test of strong and true friendship than " It is so bad that I dont get to meet my friends so often." True friends will always understand and stay with you. Moreover your spouse is a friend for life.
   
6. Your home is not yours anymore. This is probably the hardest facts to digest. You become a guest in the same place where you were born and brought up. Meeting your family becomes moments to steal than demand as a right. Slowly you realise that a half an hour spent with them was never enjoyed so much before. You value your people and the time with them more than anytime before in your life. Take this as "Realising the value of people" than "How dare someone can expect me not to meet my own people whenever I want!"
   
7. Your spouse comes before "Yes" to question. Whether it is a party,movie or even an official meeting. Take this as "An invisible hand regularizing your life" than "Oh I could not say yes on my own."

All said and done, Marriage is one of the most beautiful things to happen in ones life. It makes you less selfish and more giving. It makes you care and feel cared. It makes you feel important. It makes you more responsible and planned. It makes you more knowledgeable about human psychology. You are gifted for a life time a shoulder to lean on, hand to hold and trod the path of life, heart to live in and one whole person who is totally yours. Any other relationship in the world has the distinction of "You and me". This is one relationship where the distinction slowly fades into thin air.

God, Thank you for the life you have given me. I wait for more blessings that come with marriage in many more disguised forms.

Business partnering

Now don't tell me of all the websites freely available you found this one to get some business knowledge. (Well, may be at the end of this post you will become an entrepreneur, but thats a different issue )

Introduction:

Shaadi.com - Does that ring a bell on what I am writing about. It would have, considering the fact that it is a very difficult task to find greater "Bulb" than me.

"COM" it is. All of us turn into entrepreneurs when we start dealing with this whole business of matrimony. Do you agree with me? Let us try looking at the business process.

Business Decision:

Is this the appropriate time to start the business ?

Output :

---------> NO ---------> Shut up and study! :D

---------> YES -------->Lets become entrepreneurs :(.



Business process:

Stage 1

Data collection

• Name ( Who cares! May be numerologists will)
• DOB ( Decides if it is an uncle or a friend)
• Family members ( Of course you need to talk business with them!)
• Job and Salary ( Deciding factor for future investments)
• Gotram, Nakshatram and Kundali ( I think all businesses start on a "supposed to be" auspicious day under "supposed to be" auspicious conditions)
• Phone numbers and mail ids ( for initiation of business negotiations)

This can be outsourced to agencies that work only during humanly hours.

Stage 2

Filtering of data

• Min Max bound on DOB for long term business partnering [ Uncles may reach heavenly abode soon! :( ]
  
• Maximization of expected revenues based on job and salary ( I bet the shopping rate of girls needs that!)
• Max bound on number of family members ( Similar to our nations objective - Lower the population, the better! :D Mera Bharath Mahan)
  
• Maximization of points in Kundali matching. [When unknown is an ocean you tend to believe corporation water :)].
  

Stage 3

Contact initiation

The conversation goes something like this.

*BOC*.

Mami/Mama (Ladies first!) no 1 : Is it Mr ***** ? [that was not a bad word. I just bulbed recalling some name. :D It could be a bad word in the later stages. Not during contact initiation].


Mami/Mama no 2 : Yes....

Mami/Mama no 1: I got your contact from something.com/ something services/ some arbit person and I would like to talk regarding an alliance that I propose.


Mami/Mama no 2 : Why don't you email the horoscope and photos? We can talk after that.

*EOC*.


Stage 4

Data transfer through electronic means

Hello,

Attached are the photo, horoscope and biodata of my daughter Goda.D.R (for example).


Regards,

Mami/Mama



Stage 5

Data Analysis by the partnering company

Thats a black box to me. So don't ask!

Stage 6

Response

Let me show you some examples here.

Example 1

Mami/Mama,

We have received the horoscope and the photo. We'll take it up further and get back to you.

Regds,

Mami/Mama


Cycle time ----> infinity

Example 2

Dear Mami/Mama

Very Sorry. We are looking for a girl more than 5.5" height as my son's height is 6.1".

All the best for your daughter.

Thanks and Regards,

**** ( NO disclaimers here)

WT*

OK, We shall analyze this in a later post.

Example 3

Dear Mami/Mama

We are happy to inform you that the horoscopes have matched and we would like to meet your family soon.

Awaiting your response

Mami/Mama


Stage 7

Meeting Conference

Agenda of the conference

• The delicious Upma/Coffee combo table service. [Caution: Buffets are considered more of an insult than informality].
• Formal inquiries
  
• Wide smiles. [Reminds me of Chandler's work laugh]
• Presentation of previous annual results and future forecasts of performance.
• Expectation review
• Arrival at consensus on date of future communication

Stage 8

Future communication

Will tell you how it is when that happens. :D

Stage 9

Sign of contract

Some people call it engagement. You take pics and also flaunt your deal by inviting people who are more bothered about grub than you. So better serve good grub for good publicity.

Stage 10


Start of business and End of business too :)